Operation Fire and Ice: The Hockey Themed American Patriot Award.

11 05 2010

Operation Fire and Ice: The Hockey Themed American Patriot Award..





Motivating Kids: Myths & Truths #5

29 04 2010

This is the last of our 5-part series on Motivation Myths:

Motivational Myth #1: Kids need to be motivated. (See 4/7/10 blog entry)

Motivational Myth #2: Rewards are what motivate kids. (See 4/8/10 blog entry)

Motivational Myth #3: Lectures motivate kids. (See 4/14/10 blog entry)

Motivational Myth #4: Hype motivates kids. (See 4/26/10 blog entry)

Motivation Myth #5: Simply suck it up!

This is the last of our five motivation myths. The fifth myth is that motivation is a requirement for success. Although, many would probably argue with me on this one I believe motivation is not required. In many ways one of the important skills of life is knowing how to dig deep when motivation supplies are low. Very few people would say that they have an abundance of motivation. Most of us have to develop strong skills in discipline as well as strength of mind to overcome our propensity to stay comfortable and lazy.

How a person manages their responsibilities when their motivation source appears dry maybe says more about a person then when the motivation is abundant. With that I offer these basic tips for when your motivational energy is depleted.

  1. Break responsibilities into small pieces.  The thought of biting off the whole task can be overwhelming, but often, if one smaller step can be taken a new surge of energy is experienced.
  2. Keep your thinking in the here and now. When you are tired it is not uncommon for thinking to be loose and undisciplined. When this happens everything can easily take on a dark and pessimistic tint.
  3. Wherever you are, be there. Many people have a difficult time taking breaks because of the sheer number of things on their plate. My advice to you is when you are involved in family time, or a pleasurable hobby, be fully present in it so you can be fully present in the task when you get back to it.

Sometimes, you simply have to persevere through difficult times. You have to use the power of your mind and will to act in responsible ways and do the uncomfortable things it takes to accomplish your goals. We, unfortunately, are living in a time where we have become slaves to comfort and make all sorts of excuses for acting in non-responsible ways. Next time you are facing a moment where you need to do something and do not want to, remember you don’t always have to want to do something for it to be productive.

Living in the here and now,
Shaun





Motivating Kids: Myths & Truths #4

26 04 2010

This is the forth of a 5-part series on Motivation Myths:

Motivational Myth #1: Kids need to be motivated. (See 4/7/10 blog entry)

Motivational Myth #2: Rewards are what motivate kids. (See 4/8/10 blog entry)

Motivational Myth #3: Lectures motivate kids. (See 4/14/10 blog entry)

Motivational Myth #4: Hype motivates kids.

Motivation Myth number 4 is the hype myth. The more work I do with teams and coaches the more I realize that we have bought into the idea that we need to get our kids pumped, hyped, and excited. We hear inspirational speeches, pre-game talks in an attempt to get everybody psyched up. The beverage companies have also bought into this with the rise in the sheer numbers of “Energy Drinks” that have come on the market. We need to be careful not to buy into the idea that more hype, intensity, and energy is best for everybody.  Rarely, do you see people who execute excellently under pressure overly hyped or excited in the moment.

On each team there will be a percentage of players that need to relax because they are too intense. Their abundance of intensity often creates a lack of awareness leaving them virtually blind to the more detailed aspects of the game. These players work hard but often move right past the opportunity to score, or finish a play.  Coaches often refer to these types of players as ones that are in constant motion without much impact on the game. Being able to create a consistent level of intensity leading to the ability to pounce on opportunities as they reveal themselves is what leads not only to success but consistent play based on the learning that is acquired through practice and experience.  Certainly, there are players that require jolt of energy. These players often appear almost to relaxed. For some it may take an entire first part of the game to finally find their flow. This type of player usually needs to engage their mind in something clear and attainable. It isn’t hype or excitement needed; it is a clearly defined goal that can be self-monitored.

Helping our athletes utilize useful energy that results from a clearly communicated set of expectations with regular personalized feedback provides the necessary self-motivation that can be sustained over time. Creating hype and over excited athletes does nothing but distract them and leads them to perform in inconsistent and impulsive ways.





Motivating Kids: Myths & Truths #2

8 04 2010

Shaun Goodsell, MA

We have an energy crisis in our society. This energy crisis is taking place with our teenagers.  The myths we have bought into concerning motivation discourage us from making a difference in turning this crisis around.

Motivational Myth #1: Kids need to be motivated. (see 4/7/10 blog entry)

Motivational Myth #2: Rewards are what motivate kids. The truth is many of the rewards we use to “bargain” with our kids are often responsible for training kids to be unmotivated.

When we offer money, privilege, and other external rewards in the hopes of bargaining with kids for them to care and exert energy towards a task, we actually train them to anticipate a reward of greater significance each time they do the same task.  This dynamic mirrors that of a person dealing with addiction. An addict needs a more intense “high” with each experience and chases that “high” as the primary goal within each experience or they don’t chase it. When kids have been virtually bribed to care about things or exert energy towards something we are systematically training kids to expect a greater and greater reward and thus a more intense “high”. The consequences of this are thousands of kids have become addicted to rewards instead of developing the intrinsic motivation that is vital to long-term sustained motivation that is independent of external rewards. The skills that an individual needs to pursue the vital aspects of their life are what many kids are lacking. The more we take the short cut and bribe kids with cars, money, trophies, etc., the more we set kids up to fail later in life.

After the Myths have been identified I will create a 5 part training series on Unleashing The Power of Personal Motivation.

Keep an eye out for Motivational Myth #3!

Best to you today!

Shaun





Motivating Kids: Myths & Truths

7 04 2010

Shaun Goodsell, MA

One challenge that many parents, coaches, and teachers can all relate to is how to motivate kids. Over the last couple of years it appears that more and more kids seem to lack passion, energy, interest, and concern about their lives. It is not uncommon for parents to continually fight with their kids over doing homework, coaches consistently look for tricks on how to put a fire into their athletes lacking engagement, and teachers struggle to acquire and maintain the interest of kids.

This problem continues because we lack understanding about what is sucking the natural energy out of our kids.  I propose there are 5 motivation-reducing behaviors supported by 5 myths of motivation. For our purposes I will take them one at a time.

Motivation Myth #1:  Kids need somebody to motivate them.

Although there are many reasons for us to believe that without us kids would do nothing. This is actually part of the reason why some kids show a lack of motivation. They have become dependent on us to provide direction, promptings, and interest before they engage themselves.  I think many kids believe that they are living to please us and have organized their lives as such. The problem is that they are not living THEIR life. They have exchanged their life for our acceptance and approval. The result of this is a lack of intrigue with what they could do and become motivated by their own self-directed energy. They may not do what we think they should do or the way we think they should do it but the important point is that THEY are providing the energy and spark, which puts them in the driver seat. Overcoming our compulsion to be in charge of others’ lives may actually unleash a burst of energy that we never saw before. At any rate, helping kids take on the responsibility of directing their own life is one of the critical components of turning around the motivation crisis that many of our kids are experiencing.

Tune in tomorrow for Motivation Myth number 2!

See ya tomorrow!

Shaun





What does pressure do to us?

18 02 2010

Shaun Goodsell

Many athletes struggle to understand why they often perform better in practice then in games.  For some the presence of pressure leads to enhanced performance and for others the exact opposite is true. To answer this question we have to unpack how pressure impacts certain players verses others. Realizing there is no one single right answer for everyone.  The reason why this is the case is that everyone has a different formula for what brings the best out of them based on how they are wired when they find themselves in pressure situations. Let me illustrate:

Joe is a laid back person that takes most things in stride with a very easygoing personality. He is never really to excited and never really down. If you didn’t know him well you might assume that he doesn’t really care about much and is often accused of being a bit lazy. Practice is something that creates an opportunity to be with his friends and blow off some steam before going home for a night of Facebook and texting. For Joe the thought of a big game and any pressure associated with this game only serves to drive him into more perceived apathy and emotional disengagement because he is motivated and driven by comfort over achievement. As this unfolds a coach could become frustrated and overwhelmed, even a bit angry, as he tries to shape Joe into a more intense, engaged, and motivated player. Tactics could include applying more pressure telling Joe he will sit if he doesn’t bring more energy to the game and even yelling at him as he plays hoping to jar him out of his funk. All these do is entrench Joe more in his preferred social posture.  So, what are some explanations for what is going on and how to help Joe be his best?

First, it is likely that Joe is a strong analytical and is not prone to emotional expression. Next, the more external pressure he feels the more he will become introverted and over think everything he does because he values doing things right the first time and not having to repeat them.  In this case, pressure has the effect of activating the “over thinking” part of the brain and serves to paralyze him during competitive situations. The performance tip for Joe is to simplify the game, appeal to reason, stay calm, allow Joe the latitude to play without experiencing much external pressure, and to work with Joe to determine what he expects of himself and work to help him accomplish that.

Next we have Steve. Steve is a highly-strung athlete that approaches everything with great intensity and effort. He is a perfectionist with a very limited tolerance for mistakes not only in his performance, but with those around him as well. Practices are not only opportunities to improve but prove his superiority over those around him. His teammates both admire his intensity and are put off by it because of the inevitable critical statements that flow from him when he is under pressure. To his coaches Steve is the model that they hope to replicate and often name him a leader because of the work ethic and desire to win he brings to everything he does.  Privately, Steve is haunted with fears of failure, disappointing others, and is only noticed when he is successful. In big games Steve begins to feel like the fate of his team lies in his play and anxiety takes over and literally tightens him up from head to toes.  Fundamental skills become difficult and opportunities normally capitalized on with relative ease become very difficult. In this case, pressure serves to ignite more and more self-criticism bringing with it more and more intensity and pressure to succeed. Not only does he tighten up but his decision making process is negatively impacted by him second guessing himself and his intuitive instinctive play turns into tentative over thinking play.  Coaches trying to encourage him only feel powerless to interrupt this pattern.  Steve needs to learn how to calm himself and redefine how he deals with his desire for excellence.  In reality, Steve needs to learn how to lighten up. Pressure ignites a different series of internal events for Steve that is different then Joe. Understanding the unique ways that each player deals with pressure and what the impact of that is on performance is very important when trying to help players be their best.

These are some examples of how pressure can affect different personality types and impact the ability of that athlete to compete and excel under pressure.  As big games are on the horizon, understand that pressure has the capacity to eliminate the strengths of the best of players. No wonder we talk about the sport being 90% mental. There are many different personality blue prints that all respond to pressure differently. We have a unique tool called the TAIS profile that allows us to get a detailed blue print of how individual athletes are most apt to be impacted by pressure both externally and internally.  This blue print then guides our coaching so we can work personally to help players be their best when it counts the most.

For more information on this powerful performance tool you can visit the WM Show and Tell Video or TAIS Overview

If you would like to take the TAIS and work with us to build your personal blue print so that you can be your best when it counts the most, give us a call today 763-439-5246 and let’s get started!

Until next time, here’s to your possibilities!

Shaun
Shaun@MentalEdgeNow.com




Parents Out of Control

15 02 2010

Shaun Goodsell

People wonder all the time how an enraged parent could assault a league official because of a youth sporting event. The question I have is why it doesn’t happen more often?

There are certainly many parents that enjoy the participation of their kids without any outrageous behavior; however, there are many parents that walk the emotional boundary line of acceptability on a regular basis. Violent behavior doesn’t just come out of nowhere. It comes out of an emotionally enmeshed relationship where the parent tries to live through the accomplishments of the child and is devastated when there is perceived failure. Incest is when a parent or another adult gets their needs met from their kids. Youth sports are filled with unfulfilled adults that have surrendered their lives to their kids as they travel from one sporting event to another.

Kids were never meant to meet the emotional needs of adults. They are to be the recipients of the kind of mentoring and parenting that is the result of emotionally healthy adults that have grieved their own disappointments so they can allow their children to enjoy their activities without feeling as though they have to save their parents from a life of utter emptiness. The problem is that these types of parents are everywhere and are interfering with the lives of their kids on every level.

The event in the above link is a wake up call to the fact that we need to do something to save our kids from feeling like it is their jobs to save their parents and other emotionally empty adults from a life of despair. Youth sport associations need to provide mandatory parent education combined with high standards of character and sportsmanship. We do no favors to anyone by allowing parents and other adults to extract their well being and life’s joy from their children and other kids. This is backwards and needs to be addressed or more of these types of incidents will occur. Lets be courageous for the sake of all the kids that are silently screaming for us to lead the way and challenge adults to “get a life of their own”.





4 Things Coaches do to Harm a Goaltenders’ Mental Game (without knowing it)!

7 02 2010

Justin Johnson

Justin Johnson
Performance Coach, Mental Edge

This past fall I traveled across the state of Minnesota conducting goalie coaching clinics for youth hockey associations. During the two-hour sessions I consulted with coaches about ways they can increase the likelihood of their goaltenders having a positive experience in the game of hockey. 

What I discovered is there are many coaches who are on the right track with their goalies and their development. 

There are also a few who have trouble communicating with their goalies. Even more struggle with how they orchestrate practices and games in a way that encourages goaltender development.

In an effort to shed some light on how coaches can set their goalies up for success, I have included four common pitfalls to avoid. My aim is to inform coaches about the ways they harm their goaltenders’ mental development, often times without even knowing it!

1.)  Not sure what to say, so say nothing
Issue:
Historically head coaches and their staff have struggled with how to coach, challenge and develop the goaltenders on their team. Many coaches haven’t played the position, so they feel paralyzed when trying to address technical information and fundamentals. This lack of goalie know-how, typically leads to frustrating conversations or even an avoidance of conversations because it doesn’t land in the coaches’ comfort zone.
Advice:
I encourage coaches to make an effort to positively impact every player on the team, including goaltenders. Rather than keep quiet, sit down with your goaltender(s) to learn about what they need to be successful. Many goaltenders, even as young as squirts know what should have been done differently on goals they give up. As a coach, ask them what you can do to make practices better to address the situations you are seeing in games. Goalies need to feel a part of the team and process – ignoring them because of your ignorance can shake their trust, confidence and ultimately negatively impact their experience.

2.)  Pulling the goalie without giving explanation
Issue:
Eventually a game will get out of hand or an off-night will come around where it is in either the team’s or the goaltender’s best interest to pull them from the game. I believe that the pulling of a goalie is a necessary part of the game and one that if done correctly builds character and a winning spirit in an individual. If done incorrectly you may have a disruptive issue that lasts all season, and negatively impacts the mindset of your goaltenders for quite some time. I have witnessed and yes been a participant to many ugly pullings, where coaches yell at the goalie on the way to the bench or display incredibly poor body language that sends the wrong message to all watching.
Advice:
When you decide to pull your goaltender doing so correctly comes down to two items. Conduct yourself in a calm and professional manner, including body language, by continuing to coach your team in a positive way. Secondly, you must not let that goaltender leave from the arena without knowing why you pulled them and or how you intend to help them have a better outing next time. As a side note I feel it is acceptable to tell the goalie on the bench why you pulled them if it was done so to help change team momentum. If it was simply a rough night for the goalie, it is better to discuss in private after the game.

3.)  Shouting instructions from the bench

Issue:
Rarely have I seen great coaching advice that makes an immediate impact on a goalies performance by being yelled from the bench for all to see and hear. Other than encouragement or to notify the goalie to come to the bench, coaches should never yell to a goaltender. The repercussions of yelling include embarrassment, confusion, frustration, and a fear of making mistakes all of which deter a quality mindset and performances. In other words whatever gem of advice you may have and result you get from it will be eroded by a mindset that requires the goaltender to play for you rather than themselves and their instinct.
Advice:
If a persistent issue is occurring there are a number of ways to communicate more effectively. You can wait until there is an intermission, relay the message to a mature player you feel will communicate to your goalie with the correct tone and message intended, or call a time-out.

4.)  Waiting right before the game to designate the starter
Issue:
Perhaps the most common mistake coaches make without knowing it is waiting to decide or inform which goalie will play. Coaches fail to understand that goaltending is a position that requires a significant amount of preparation. If a goalie does not know, that preparation is undermined, resulting in a less than prepared, less confident goaltender. Coaches have stated they use this tactic to judge who looks best in warm-ups or to make sure both goalies are ready. Both of these tactics are mentally counterproductive and will create negative effects not only for your goaltenders but also the rest of the team.
Advice:
I suggest coaches give notice to BOTH goaltenders as to who will be playing a night in advance if possible or the morning of the game at the latest. This should be plenty of time for your goaltenders to prepare, giving your team the best chance of a quality performance. This is a simple request and one that will be greatly appreciated by your goaltenders.

Remember if you are good to your goalies they will likely be good to you and your team!

For more information, contact Justin@MentalEdgeNow.com





5 Performance Strategies to Help Your Kids

19 01 2010

Shaun Goodsell was featured on WCCO TV, Channel 4 in Minneapolis.  He shares 5 Performance Keys to help your kids in athletics and in life.  Click below and enjoy the video!

5 Performance Strategies WCCO Interview with Shaun Goodsell

We’d love to hear your comments!





Love Your Workout

25 12 2009

These mini mental and muscle tweaks will take a load off your body, not your calorie burn, for bigger exercise bliss…Shaun Goodsell contributes to Fitness Magazine article by Holly St. Lifer

Love Your Workout FitnessMag








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